Yeah, I know I'm bad....

I'm finding it hard to keep this my promise of regularly updating my blog. Maybe if I put my blog on my bookmark toolbar, I will remember.

I'm reeling from this post I read at Vera's. She went to a single's conference where they listed a host of marital and pre-marital sins, the most harrowing being the forbidding of oral sex among married couples. It's bad enough that we are not supposed to have sex before marriage, now they are restricting the kind of sex I can have when I'm married? Are they kidding?

I attended a wedding at a Redeemed church in yankee recently and was shocked by the pastor's rendition of the couple's love story. According to the pastor, casual dating is forbidden in his church. The groom asked him for permission before asking the bride out. Of course, this all happened after mandated fasting and prayer. Before the babe agreed, she also conducted her own prayer and fasting sessions. Mind you, this is all before the dating process. So they began their church supervised courting: under no circumstances were they allowed to be alone together, no kissing, hugging or “come hither” looks. They couldn’t even ride in the same car without someone else with them. The pastor was bragging cos they followed his instructions and now they were getting married. The whole time dude was speaking, I was looking around to make sure the “you’ve got to be kidding me” look was not just on my face. In this day and age!? I just can’t imagine such chastity in today’s society. In this America? I didn’t get the chance to ask the couple if they actually followed the pastor’s orders or bent some of the rules. It’s one thing to demand that people not have sex before marriage but now you tell them they shouldn’t even hug!? Haba!

I find it absurd when people take the words of a human being as God’s words. I am yet to come across a bible passage that eschews human touch during a courtship. Even the songs of Solomon talks of lovers embracing and kissing. Yes they may lead to sex but people such Christians should have a lil more self control. In fact, I think the pastor came up with these rules because he believes members of his congregation have no self control but that’s taking things too far. Personally, I enjoy hugging, kissing and much more…as long as you use protection, go on soun.☺.

Do I love Obama or do I love Obama!?

I just caught the state of the union address on youtube since I didn't get the chance to watch it last night. I can't remember ever looking for any other politician's speech online or actually being so excited to listen to my president before. I swear everytime I see Obama, I just smile. As expected, most of the speech was on the economy but one thing that stood out to me was his stand on education:

"So tonight I ask every American to commit to at least one year or more of higher education or career training. This can be a community college or a four-year school, vocational training or an apprenticeship. But whatever the training may be, every American will need to get more than a high school diploma.

And dropping out of high school is no longer an option. It's not just quitting on yourself; it's quitting on your country. And this country needs and values the talents of every American."

I swear the part in bold almost drove me to tears. So true Mr President, so true. Someborri shout GOBAMA! (Adeboye stylee)

Ne-Yo Concert

Last Tuesday, I went to a $10 Ne-Yo concert. I'm really gonna miss being a college student...no more cheap concerts. Musiq SoulChild opened for him and he was really good. Luckily, he only sang his hits so we the audience were able to sing along. Then came Ne-Yo! I was never really a big fan of the dude, I saw him open for Alicia Keys last year and all I could thing was "dude has a lot of wadrobe changes." I wasn't so keen on seeing him again but my sister wanted to go and it was only $10.

To tell the truth, days before the concert, I started to get really excited. I had listened to his latest album and was really looking forward to singing along (Nothing ruins a concert for me faster than going there and chopping mouth instead of singing). Let me just say that Ne-Yo did not disappoint. He's not the greatest of singers but he's a great entertainer. He knows how to keep the audience entertained. He gave roses to ladies in the audience as per Val's day steez. He worked the crowd really well and I felt really proud that I could sing along to most of the songs he sang. My fave for now being "mad". He also sang a medley of songs he had written, that was pretty cool. All in all, it was a great concert. He changed his outfit only ONCE and guys had a great time.

As for Val's day...let's just leave it there.

Gen gen gen gen....

He's just not that into you

**Don't read this if you haven't seen the movie and plan to do so**

I was in the library yesterday after class when my friend asked me to see "He's just not that into you". *gasp*Library on a Friday afternoon!? I know! School has officially taken over my life :-( Even though the showing was at 4, the theatre was PACKED! There were all sorts of people in the room: from large groups of females to gay couples to ladies who dragged their "guys" there hoping he will get the drift and get more serious with them. The movie wasn't half bad; it had quite a few touching and funny moments. However, I have some problems with it.

Here's my beef: The movie does a good job of pointing out signs of when the guy/girl isn't into you but at the end of the day, they go and give you some type of false hope. I mean, the character Jennifer Aniston played was in a relationship for SEVEN years with a guy who claimed no interest in marriage. Home girl tried to play cool with it until her baby sister started planning her wedding. She gives her guy an ultimatum: marry me or I step. Dude no want marriage so she stepped. All well and good abi? No o, after some time she realizes that all she wants is him so she takes him back saying she'll be alright with no marriage deal as long as he's committed to her. After he's back in, dude finally realizes he wants to marry her. Everyone lives happily ever after. Are the script writers sending the message that if your bobo isn't warming up to the marriage thing, dump him, take him back after a bit and then all of a sudden he'll be ready to marry you? NA LIE!!! Have they met Naija men?

I have more bones to pick with this movie but I gorra save them, I have a paper to write.

Long time

Wowwww blogspot! I can't believe I neglected you for so long. My sincerest apologies. Too much was going on. So this 2009 I pledge to keep this blog updated on the regular. So Help me God!

Olúwa ní Olùsọ àgùntàn mí (the Lord is my shepherd)

It’s only God that has helped me keep my sanity these past weeks because if not for God, I might be sitting on the floor of Aroo mental. Some people who I thought were my friends have hurt me so much I’m not sure I can ever totally recover and be really friends with them. I am the kind of person that cherishes the people she loves. I may go MIA ever so often but when you need help, I can cut off my right arm to make sure you get it. So it hurts me so much when someone so close to me takes blatant advantage of that. There’s nothing I hate more than feeling used and taken for granted. My popsie kuku warned me about overstretching myself and always putting the needs of others in front of mine. Now I see what he’s talking about. I thought it was the way to go, after all JOY means Jesus first, yourself last and others in between. But no more of that o! No more. Chai, I’m burnt sha! I am not giving details because I refuse to slander others.

In other news, I just found out that Tsitsi Dangarembga, the author of one of my fave novels Nervous Conditions, has published a sequel. I almost skipped out of the library after checking out The Book of Not. I know, I know I’m weird but Nervous Conditions rocked my world. It was required reading for my African Humanities class and it opened my eyes. Since then, I’ve been turned on to African female writers like Echemeta, Mariam Ba, Ama ata Aidoo, Adichie, Ken Bugul, Sefi Attah and more. I love to read from female authors, especially African ones. There are not nearly enough of them and there are so many stories that need to be heard.

I finally registered for the GRE yesterday. That $140 I paid was no joke. I could have spent it on a new purse or shoes so therefore I must take it once and no more than that. I’ve begun studying seriously sha. I haven’t taken math in years and It seems like it’s easier for me to solve a calculus problem than to do simple arithmetic without a calculator. And the verbal words nko…I used to think I could blow grammar but apparently I’m out of practice. Not to worry, come September 22^nd, I will be ready! L’àgbàra Jésù (by God’s grace)